The 7 rules for dating rich, from the 'Cupid of Silicon Valley'

Amy Andersen charges six figures to find matches for her wealthy, high-profile clients. Here's what they're looking for.

VIEW IN BROWSER | SUBSCRIBE WED, FEB 15, 2023 This week's newsletter was written by Ryan Ermey, a senior reporter covering money and investing for CNBC Make It. You can follow him on Twitter @RyanErmey.   While you scroll your timeline today, you may notice that other people's Valentine's Day celebrations looked romantic and thoughtful and, well, expensive.   Though many of us are told money should not be a significant factor in who we choose to partner with, wealthy people want to find love, too.   Amy Andersen, the so-called Cupid of Silicon Valley, helps them find it. She charges her affluent, VIP clients — a third of whom are wealthy women — hundreds of thousands of dollars for her matchmaking service, Linx Dating.   "Many people I know don't take offense if someone admires them for their money, especially if they worked hard for it," she wrote in a recent contributed story for CNBC Make It.   But dating an ultrawealthy person might not be the fantasy you'd imagine. Andersen shares seven rules you should keep in mind. 1. Have your own set of accomplishments These don't necessarily have to be monetary accomplishments. They could be "a career, a side hustle or a personal goal you've achieved," says Andersen. Basically, you want to prove to this person that your ambitions extend beyond, well, dating them.   2. Be prepared to sign an NDA Andersen's high-profile clients require potential matches to sign a nondisclosure agreement before meeting. Nothing says romance like signing up to be sued if you divulge the weird stuff someone said at dinner.   3. You may need to be discreet Many high-profile people value privacy, which means dating them could require some discretion on your part, says Andersen. That could mean letting your social media go dark or not posting about the lifestyle your partner's money affords you.   4. Have your own personal life Rich people want healthy relationships, too, and that means that each person has their own social circles, relationships and support systems.   5. Be flexible "Many wealthy people have complex lives — divorces, challenging financial situations, stressful business transactions, complicated relationships with their children, and a whole lot of drama," says Andersen. Be ready to endure some chaos.   6. Stay grounded People know when you're just in it for the money, so try not to get swept up in private jet rides or celebrity encounters. Instead, keep the focus on the relationship. "Not only does this make you more attractive to your partner, but it also keeps your mind clear and helps you decide whether or not the relationship is right for you," Andersen says.   7. Have a prenuptial agreement When it comes to marrying rich, it doesn't get more classic than a prenup. But it's not just about protecting the richer half if you two split.   "Having a prenup can protect you if you decide to end things," says Andersen. "It can also help prevent divorce by enforcing mutual investment arrangements that strengthen and preserve your marriage."   For more of Andersen's advice for dating the mega-rich, check out the full story on CNBC Make It. Trending articles from CNBC Make It Carlos Slim is the 10th-richest person in the world—take a look inside his $80 million Gilded Age mansion in NYC This is the No. 1 money habit of early retirees, says CFP—and it only takes 30 minutes Donna Kelce raised 2 Super Bowl-winning brothers—here's the No. 1 parenting rule she used The 11 U.S. cities where rent prices fell the most in January Do you need to file a federal tax return? See if your income qualifies Unsubscribe Manage Newsletters Digital Products Join the CNBC Panel Feedback Terms of Service Privacy Policy   © 2021 CNBC LLC. All rights reserved. A property of NBC Universal. 900 Sylvan Avenue, Englewood Cliffs, NJ 07632 Data is a real-time snapshot *Data is delayed at least 15 minutes. Global Business and Financial News, Stock Quotes and Market Data and Analysis. Data also provided by THOMSON REUTERS